Despite the varying myths that rape culture perpetuates, there is no “classic” rape, no “perfect” victim. Every rape is different and every victim handles his/her situation differently. Some fight their attackers, while others — for assorted and valid reasons — do not. Some report their rapes, while others — myself included — never do.
Nothing quite captures the complexities and diversity of rape like Trigger Warning: Breakfast. Published on The Nib by an anonymous author, this comic powerfully illustrates one woman’s experience with rape and how she chose to deal with it in the immediate aftermath.
It is straightforward, painful, honest and indicative of how every rape elicits a unique response. After all, rape is by no means “normal,” and there is no appropriate or “normal” response to it. There is no one rape victim narrative.
There is more to the comic, and I encourage you to peep it in its entirety. It should be required reading — for rape apologists, journalists, prosecutors, jurors, campus administrators, men and women, and victim advocates alike.
@Philip I’d love to know how you came to that conclusion? Who said anything about changing mind in the middle of sex? If you’re not going to pay attention to something as simple as a comic, why bother commenting?
You’re not kidding are you? You are really going to say that changing your mind in the middle of sex is the same as rape? You slept through the night and woke up without so much as a bruise and you want to say that is rape? Were you in fear of being mutilated or murdered if you didn’t get his eggs right?
If this is rape, you just convinced me not to give a shit.
Tape is the taking away of someone’s right to say “no” to sex. Silence is not consent. Changing your mind in the middle of sex and them not obliging is rape. And you are a disgusting victim blaming idiot.
Very powerful. It’s so important that people get out of this “classic” rapist mentality and realize what rape actually looks like and how people experience it.
Thank you for sharing this perspective.
Thank you for sharing this. This is certainly powerful.